You know what’s really helpful in solving my own problems? Writing them down, sending them to someone, and not hearing back.
You ever do that? For me, it’s a bulletproof method to solving problems.
It’s akin to those moments when you go to someone with a problem, you talk it through, you find a solution, you thank them for their help, and they say, “Well I didn’t even say anything, but you’re welcome.”
If I have a friend, co-worker, or collaborator who I know is on the other end of a chat box, typing out my problem and not hearing back from them can be a tremendous help.
Here’s an example of how it often goes:
Jim Nielsen, Friday at 12:53 PM
I’m having an issue where the deployment isn’t working. Failiures are coming from lines 123-125 of the build script...
Jim Nielsen, Friday at 12:59 PM
Oh, it looks like something changed in commit abc123e in the lock file...
Jim Nielsen, Friday at 1:02 PM
This is so weird, I hate troubleshooting this crap. Why is everything in the world garbage?
Jim Nielsen, Friday at 1:03 PM
Ok, I can’t figure this out. I'm going to need your help when you have a second.
Jim Nielsen, Friday at 1:09 PM
Oh hey, actually I think I know what the problem is...
Jim Nielsen, Friday at 1:11 PM
Ok, it’s fixed now. Nevermind, I don’t need your help. Thanks!
Co-worker, Friday at 4:03 PM
You're welcome, glad I could help!
In contrast, AI is too eager to respond back with something when nothing would be much more helpful.
Knowing another human is there to connect with — available, listening, but not speaking — has helped me many times as I express my thinking step-by-step.
So let me give you some relationship advice, AI. Sometimes you don’t need to say or do anything. You just need to listen.
Cool? Thanks.
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